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How To Calm Toddler Tantrums, Teach Them Self-Regulation And Promote Their Brain Development


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Calm The Tantrums eBook

A Step-by-Step Guide to Calming Toddler Tantrums

What's in this ebook:

  • Top 3 ways to avoid toddler meltdowns
  • How parents can stay calm during epic tantrums
  • Best way to calm a toddler and handle hitting
  • Teach kids self-regulation during tantrums



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When my daughter was going through the terrible twos, I received a lot of different advice from friends and family. It was hard to know which advice was right and good for my child. So I looked into research on toddler tantrums.

From studying engineering at Stanford University, I've learned that a runaway car without a brake cannot stop on its own. You wouldn't ignore a runaway car and just hope it will stop itself... or punish the driver for not using the brake.

But that's exactly what most parents are doing... without even knowing it.

Babies are born with a mature arousal circuit to alert parents about dangers for survival. But their emotional regulation circuit is barely there. A toddler in tantrum is like a runaway car without a brake.

When my child throws a tantrum, she’s not being defiant. Her emotional gas pedal is just stuck to the floor without an emotion regulating brake.

So I've come up with a solution that works based on scientific research.

Using my solution, I was finally able to stop the emotional runaway before it went rolling down the hill.

Now, every time my child throws a tantrum, instead of feeling frustrated, I use it as an opportunity to help her develop her brain circuits and emotion regulating skills.

My daughter has learned to calm herself during meltdowns. No punishment is ever needed.

We’re now both calmer and happier. We love spending time together and enjoy each other’s company. My child and I are closer than ever before.

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what parents are saying

This book has helped me so much. I was at my wits end. Now I can finally stop yelling and focus on helping him learn to control himself. Thanks a lot for the much needed help.

Elise M.

I love this book! I love the science based explanations which allow me to understand why my kids are having tantrums all the time. The suggested solutions work so well.

Elisabeth K.

Full of insightful advice. This book is not just about tantrums. It changes my approach in parenting, too. Highly recommend to all parents.

Fiona C.

what EXPERTS are saying

Mark Burhenne
DDS, Amazon #1 bestselling author of The 8-Hour Sleep Paradox

This is one of the best parenting books out there. Li's unique approach to handling toddler tantrums is simple, effective and backed by enormous amount of scientific proof. Her insights revolutionize the way we understand toddler behavior. A must-read for any parents and caregivers of young children.

Gerald Puk
PhD, Psychologist

Li offers a fresh new perspective on tantrums and gives parents the tools to turn terrible-two’s into valuable opportunities for a child to grow into a mature and resilient person. I highly recommend it.

Cynthia Kong
LMFT, LPCC, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor

This is a must-read book for parents of young children, or anyone likely to spend time around young children. Ms. Li does an excellent job of summarizing, in clear and accessible language, the extensive literature on the neurobiology and psychology of human emotional development. She gives many practical tips on effective ways to manage these commonly challenging situations.


I'm a mom, wife, bestselling author and the Editor-in-Chief of Parenting for Brain. I help parents restore happiness at home and kids reach their full potential using brain-science-based strategies.

This ebook is the result after poring over hundreds, if not thousands, of scientific studies when I was dealing with my daughter's terrible twos tantrums. It is a follow-on to my first bestseller, Turning Tantrums Into Triumphs.

Join the thousands of parents who have used this strategy successfully and discover how science can help you create a happy home.

Yours sincerely,
Pamela Li


B.Engineering Honors, McGill University
MS Electrical Engineering, Stanford University
MBA, Harvard University



They can calm down during tantrums instead of escalating emotions.


They can regulate themselves when they don't get what they want.


They can bounce back from setback without crumbling.

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frequently asked questions

This book's strategies work best with preschoolers and elementary school aged children.

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